Dear Ms. Netiquette,
I recently had a friend ask me for my tokens, this is what she said…
I saw that your Pogo subscription expired. I was wondering if I could have your tokens. And if you come back to Pogo I WILL give you every token back. I just need your password so I can transfer them to my account.
First of all, I would never give my password out, not even to a family member. Second, I did inform this person that even though I could not play Club Pogo right now, I can and still do play the free Pogo. I explained that my husband just passed away and then my subscription ended. I cannot afford the membership right now.
My question is this, if she could get into my account how could she take my tokens and transfer them to her account? I personally think this person has been lying to me and making it seem she is not who she was saying she was. Even if she was, she has to be crazy to think I would give her the password to my account.
Dear Just Wondering,
First of all, good for you for NOT obliging her most unusual request! While she may have just wanted your tokens, you just never know. With control of your account, you don’t know how far she might have gone. It’s better to be safe than sorry, and frankly, if all she wanted were tokens, she can earn them herself. It’s not that hard.
Also, and I understand you were just trying to be nice, but I don’t think you owed her an explanation. Nice people like yourself often feel the need to explain why they can’t or won’t grant an unusual request. While that seems kind, it also sends a message that the request was somehow “okay”. In the future, I’d advise you to simply say “no” or “absolutely not” and leave it at that. Declining such a request with a firm and brief reply might clue the questioning party into how inappropriate the question is.
As for the transfer of tokens, this is primarily done through one of our “High Stakes” games. Essentially, she either has a friend help her, or she uses a “double-browsing” technique where she uses two different browsers (like Chrome and Firefox) and uses one to log on with her account, and the other to log on with yours. From there, either she alone or with a friend who takes one account while she takes the other, proceeds to purposefully lose large quantities of tokens from your account, which will get added to her winning account. It’s an unfortunate “trick” people use to launder tokens, which is why you are so smart not to ever give your password out to anybody!
Dear Ms. Netiquette,
I hope that all has been going well for you and that your tea is wonderful today. I have a question for you, and maybe you won’t be able to answer, but any advice would be appreciated.
I am one of those people that loves to read other people’s profiles. I read so many interesting things, and have quite a few laughs, which sometimes I am so thankful for. Especially if I am having a lousy day. I truly appreciate those people out there who do fill out their profiles, and make them a bit humorous.
I was checking one out the other day, and I was shocked over what I read. This person used “None of Your Business” for all their personal stats, and in the favorites columns they went on to say that people who read other people’s profiles are sick and that they should consider themselves stalkers.
Is this what I am because I enjoy reading those profiles? I myself have my profile filled out, and I don’t care if anyone reads it or not, and I certainly wouldn’t think anyone who did look at it was sick or stalking me. I just find it interesting to see where everyone is from and what they love about life in general. It breaks up the monotony of my day sometimes.
I just would like your general opinion on this. I appreciate your time.
Best regards for a great cup of tea,
Dear Profile Lover,
The profile is a feature for allowing players to share a little bit about themselves. It’s a public page, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with looking at someone’s profile. That’s why it’s there – to be seen by other Pogo players. There’s no requirement that people fill it out, and player’s are only encouraged to fill out information that they’re comfortable sharing. These profiles are connected to your screen name, and not your first or last name, unless you choose to put that information in there, which we do NOT recommend. Most people don’t put anything too personal, which is something we also recommend. Keeping super personal information out of your profile is a smart internet practice.
Players also have the option of turning off their profile entirely, or limiting its visibility to only those who are on their Friends List. They can set their privacy on their Profile Settings
page. If anyone is uncomfortable with strangers reading their profile, then adjusting these settings will allow them control over who, if anyone, can see it.
So, that player was just, as the children say, a “meanie-bo-beanie”. Rather than using the options available, that player chose to be unfriendly and accusatory about it.
You are free to continue browsing people’s profiles at your leisure, with no worry about whether or not you’re a stalker – you’re clearly not!
Recently I noticed the name of a person I see often while playing Bingo Luau on My Friends list. I must have clicked it by accident at some point. I immediately removed it.
Now when I enter a room where that person is playing, she almost immediately leaves. I am afraid she thinks I am stalking her. Nothing could be further from the truth. We just happen to play the same game, sometimes in the same room, often.
Am I being paranoid? What can I do to make this better?
Dear Accidental Clicker,
This is a tough predicament. Addressing her directly may come across as even more “stalkerish” and could make it look like you’re paying too much attention to her. It was a simple mistake, and over time, she should recognize that you’re not stalking her.
However, if you do end up in the same room from time to time, she may not see it that way. We have no idea whether or not she’s had to deal with stalkers in her past, and if she has, she could be understandably concerned about having another.
For the time being, to avoid feeling like you’re making her uncomfortable, I’d advise you to not contact her, but do find a room that you enjoy and limit yourself to that one room for a few months. If she happens to be in that room when you enter, so be it. She may leave, but she may also come to realize that you often play in that room, and she can avoid it. If she happens to enter while you’re there, again, so be it. What you don’t want to do is make any obvious changes to your behavior when you see her. She may mistake a reaction for an action, and it could further solidify her suspicions.
Of course, by taking this advice you really are going out of your way to accommodate her. It would also be perfectly acceptable to simply continue playing how you’ve been playing, and just let her come and go as she pleases. Ultimately, the issue belongs to her, and if you continue to just be yourself, hopefully over time she’ll recognize that you pose no threat.
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